FractalRecently I’ve been interacting with a lot of divorced people (both men and women) in various forums and groups. And it’s become abundantly clear that many divorced people are stuck.

They’re stuck in their misery. They’re stuck in their sorrow. They’re stuck in their grief. They’re stuck in their pain. They’re stuck in their story. They’re stuck in their fear. They’re just stuck in every way imaginable. And I get all of those emotions, because divorce causes you to go through every one of them. But some of these people have been stuck for a long time – often many years.

I don’t want that to happen to you! And I promise you, it doesn’t have to be that way. You don’t have to stay stuck. But how do you get “unstuck”?

It’s All Energy

You may have heard that everything is made up of energy. In my work and in my studies throughout the years, I’ve come across research and ways of testing energy levels. One of the best books I’ve found on this topic is Power vs. Force by Dr. David Hawkins. Without going into all the science behind it, he determined that everything vibrates at a certain energy level. He ranked the various energy levels of human emotions on what he calls a Map of Consciousness.

On the Map Dr. Hawkins ranked the various human emotions on a scale of 1 to 1,000. What we call negative emotions rank lower than what we call positive emotions. For example, Shame vibrates at a level of 20, Courage vibrates at 200, and Love vibrates at 500. It has been determined that most people vibrate at a level of right around 200.

Think about that for a minute. 200 out of 1,000? The emotions of Neutrality, Willingness, Acceptance and Forgiveness, and Peace all vibrate at levels above 200 – but most human beings don’t even vibrate at those levels. No wonder so many people are stuck for so long after their divorce! How could anyone move forward in a positive way in their life if their energy level isn’t at least equal to that of acceptance and forgiveness?

In case you’re curious 700 – 1,000 on the Map represents the vibrational energy of Enlightenment. Mother Teresa’s vibrational energy level was around 750!

I’ve been blessed to always have had a fairly high vibrational energy. When I left my marriage 4 years ago, I know my energy level dropped significantly. That’s normal during a time of personal crisis. Since that time, I’ve done things both consciously and unconsciously that have raised it back up to even higher levels than ever before – including finding my Life Lesson and my Life Purpose. I’ve developed tools and techniques that have helped me keep moving forward and raising my vibrational energy levels.

Getting Unstuck

Most people aren’t stuck intentionally – they either don’t realize they’re stuck or they don’t know how to get unstuck.

The good news is that there are ways to raise your vibrational energy so that you don’t stay in that stuck place. But here’s the thing: It’s up to you to choose whether you stay stuck or whether you learn how to raise your vibrational energy and catapult your life into new and exciting places.

If you’re having a difficult time getting moving forward after a divorce, leave me a comment below and let me know what area you’re having trouble in. If you’d like to remain anonymous, feel free to email me at And if you’ve found ways to raise your vibrational energy levels and get unstuck, I’d love to hear about them!