Recently I’ve heard several people comment that Valentine’s Day is the “Hallmark Holiday,” meaning that it was made up by a greeting card company. So I did some digging around, and I learned that there actually is quite a history to Valentine’s Day.

Regardless of whether Valentine’s Day is based on fact or fiction, it still comes around every year on February 14th.

And the truth of the matter is that Valentine’s Day can be miserable or wonderful whether you’re single, married, in a relationship, or just dating. It’s all up to you and what you choose it to be.

So what can you do, especially if it’s your first Valentine’s Day as a newly single woman?

Although Valentine’s Day is all about love, that doesn’t mean it’s only about romantic love. Think of all the other types of love you have in your life – your children, perhaps grandchildren, parents, nieces and nephews, and your friends. And let’s not forget about our furry four-legged friends! Spend some time with people in your life that bring you joy and happiness. If you can’t physically spend time with them, call them and let them know how much they mean to you.

But what about the most important relationship of all – the relationship with yourself? Why not work on that relationship this Valentine’s Day?

Handwritten-Love-logo1Wouldn’t Valentine’s Day be a wonderful day to start falling in love with the one person who will always be with you, the only person who can make you whole and complete?

Try falling in love with yourself and your life, and you won’t ever have to look outside of yourself for happiness. Your happiness should not be dependent on any other human being. Life will treat you the way you treat yourself. Use Valentine’s Day as a time to treat yourself the way you want life – and others – to treat you.

Splurge on something you love, whether it’s your favorite bottle of perfume, a massage or manicure. Or buy yourself some beautiful new lingerie – after all, aren’t you worth it? You’d better have answered YES to that question, because if you don’t think you’re worth it, how do you ever expect anyone else to think you are?

Get together with some of your single girlfriends and cook dinner together. Do a random act of kindness, like paying for the person behind you in the Starbucks drive-thru line. Write a love letter to yourself, and acknowledge all of your good qualities. I know you have them!

Candles-21Whatever you do, at the end of the day, light some candles and take a long, hot bubble bath. When you’re finished, rub some fragrant, rich body lotion all over – lavender is especially good at night because of its soothing qualities.

And if you dare, climb into bed – naked. Feel the cool softness of the sheets against your warm skin. Be grateful for all the good things in your life. When you focus on all the good things that are in your life, you’ll realize just how much you have to be grateful for.

So go ahead – I dare you to start falling in love with you again and get naked this Valentine’s Day!

And be sure to leave a comment below and share something special you’re going to do for yourself on Valentine’s Day.